Yosemite

This place surely has some enigmatic aura and it is complex to decipher the pull it has on the mind.

…may be geographically the landscapes have their own identity which is very unique to this terrain.

Or may be it is the experience of the journey that leads to Yosemite… after the seemingly long and never ending curvy roads … you start to get the glimpse of the granite treasures.

Or may be on a more poetic note…the mountains and cliffs stand out as the ancestors of the past wanting to tell their story. A story of the turmoiled, rebelling and unsettled soul.. looking into our eyes and asking for our attention and respect.

Reasons could be infinite but there can be only one motive … to cherish the memories and experiences of this pristine place. I hope it gets more beautiful by the day and more resilient to averse global warning changes.

God Bless You Yosemite… You are precious!

If you want to find secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration – Nikola Tesla

Not sure what to make of a thought when it is so profound… so scientific and yet so philosophical… But it surely strikes a cord and fits perfectly with my work-life philosophy.

And here I get a chance to explore my humble analogy with Nikola’s view.

So if, Humans = Energy

Then,

Our energies define who we are i.e. our qualities, strengths, skills or talents.

Our frequency which is a manifestation of our energies, defines our endeavour to connect with the outside world i.e. our communication, our vibes or thoughts.

Vibrations define the impact that we create resulting from the alignment of our energies and its manifestations.

If nothing else, this could probably answer the question of how and why people become so successful in their pursuits.

In the marriage of Apathy and Empathy…

Pain! what else can you expect? And that’s what we will get if we don’t have a mindful view of the purpose and process.

Let me provide clarity on this article, it is not about humans per se, but about our choices and our approaches.

Although Apathy and Empathy are human emotions but you will find their conflict of interests in all spheres of life and non life. it could be

  • 2 puzzle pieces that don’t fit
  • 2 individuals that cannot get along
  • 2 ideologies that are not compatible

When expectations are not met, relationships turn sour and sometimes break. It can be emotionally toiling but why to lose heart and boil blood? Can we have an objective view of our heart breaks?

Yes of course, it has taken me a long time at the cost of my heart breaks to see a pattern that can help prepare for future scenarios. So lets start from the basics, why do Apathy and Empathy come together in the first place? Because,

  1. Opposites attract,
  2. There is a gap that is to be filled between them

(There might be other reasons but for brevity lets retain the focus on these 2 aspects)

And here are the learnings or pointers for study,

Learning 1 – When Apathy and Empathy come together, they should realise the powers of attraction. It is the oppositeness that has got them together. Their fascination is limited to knowing the unknown and discovering.

Tip – Focus to discover the unknowns and check mark the common areas.

Learning 2 – Understand and define the threshold for opposite behaviours. Be unbiased and objective. This comes easy for Apathisers, but can be difficult for Empathisers. So if you are leaning too much then detach yourself for awhile. Check your biases.

Here is a good article to be on the top of the game. https://www.businessinsider.com/cognitive-biases-that-affect-decisions-2015-8

Tip – Define how much is too much

Learning 3 – Set goals for the commitment. Goals can be individual and also combined. What is to be achieved and why? Define the success parameters.

Tip – Test the equation.

Learning 4 – Review hypotheses, Move on, with or without. Do a SWOT (Strength, Weakness, Opportunities, Threats) of the situation even if you have succeeded.

Tip – Keep talking about it. The more you express the more perspectives you get.

This is what the process looks like, inspired from 4D.

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Commitments fail, be it human to human or human to non human, but an objective view can help to define ‘ourselves’ in the situation. So before losing your heart and taking a drastic step, pause to reflect and then move ahead.

Also understand that,

Apathisers are not always brutal heart breakers, but they have different views and rationale.

Empathisers on the other hand are over flowing with emotions.

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And we are not perpetually apathetic or empathetic, but it is our choice of role that we want to play in a given situation.

So, if expectations are not met, it is only because the views and intentions are not aligned.

So it is a divorce? happily ever after?

Depends on YOU!

Thanks for reading!

My work-life philosophy

Everyday majority of time is spent at workplaces.

It is our second home our inseparable part. And it is very natural to have a love – hate relationship at our workplaces. But it is a challenging one, since we are dealing with projects, personalities, practices, power structures, perspectives all at the same time.

It can be rewarding and enriching but it is also be discomforting and frustrating. As a result we are spending a lot time thinking about our work outside of the places and time limits.

Time and again we have to remind our selves that there is life beyond; here Gita helps me realise the alignment of variables and MMW helps to manage expectations.

Following is my visualisation to find a balance of personal well being and being competent.

Inspired by My Gita and Make Meaningful Work

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Language of Body

Just as good looks deceive so does a dominant body language.

Recently, we have happened to watch street show at Disney. My LO had not known STAR WARS till that time.

And of course who can beat Disney, surely mavericks they are. But it so happens that my LO thinks the opposite 😦 to him the Darth Vader and Kylo Ren are the heroes!

Cant blame him, but I am worried mother!!!

Inspite of explaining it to him several times, it doesn’t work. I have not found a solution to this problem but I have understood the problem finally.

The play requires little kids to play JEDI. Sometimes the light sabre is heavier and taller than the kids enacting and hence they struggle to put up a fight against the dark side heroes. Sigh!

But when the Darth Vader and Kylo Ren enter the plot it marked with high pitch volume of the signature tune. Ofcourse they are well dressed and they can very well manage their light sabres!

They speak english and they always belittle the fighting efforts of little JEDIS. So even if the audience gestures they go back to their dungeon and they do, they are still seen as hero by my little one! to the extent that black is now his favourite colour.

I can just ignore this, and be happy that some day LO will know the truth.DSC02458

But I have to be on my vigil now. Our mind processes these cues subsconciously and by experience, but i think it now needs to be taught to decipher, coz good people can have bad body language and vice a versa. We might be in greater danger than we think.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-words/201210/the-science-body-language-the-debates

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_language

 

 

UX and swimming

I am learning to swim 🙂 I was trying to swim 10 years back too.

But this time it is easier and I have managed to make significant progress. I am doing it by my own. No tutors or classes. So as I am gleaming in my self proclaimed achievement, I wondered why this time the experience was so rewarding and here are my notes –

  1. I wanted to learn for my own sake
  2. I practised the patterns
  3. I create my own template for the pattern.
  4. I tested what I have learned and practised so far.
  5. I updated my templates as I was live testing.

Viola ! I know to swim.

This may sound like an agile spirit rather my swimming lesson. But that what it is! Apart from being my passion and my source of bread UX is now teaching how to learn new tricks 🙂

The important distinguishing factor is that the user is motivated. Learning – UX can move mountains if they are motivated.

The second would be – I worked on the swimming patterns to the limit of creating a memory for my hand and leg muscles. And when the muscle memory was strong there was no friction in learning. Learning – Muscle memory rules. UX patterns should leverage this memory.

Most of the times while working on design projects, the client insists on creating a new design just for the sake of being a path breaker. This causes friction for the users trying to explore it. Seamless experience is the most important aspect of interactive design. It should  be realised that interaction patterns are just a way to achieve a goal and creating a new patterns should not be deemed as the goal.

Learning – Create a friction for the users and you will find yourself drowning if not gasping for breath!